Gaining Power Through Other People
By Joseph Primm
Have you come across a person who is so naturally
friendly that when you put him inside a room of
strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no
time? We call such a people-person, someone
unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm
most anyone into doing most anything.
A socially-empowered person achieves so much
greatness, basically because of the people that
catapult him to success. He earns the trust and
all-out support of the people, whom he had helped
before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything
with the plethora of people behind him. All because he
knows he maximizes his social potential!
See, if you know your social skills and you make use
of them, you will reach self-empowerment.
Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your
life and turning yourself into a happier and more
successful person. If you can be one of those
people-persons, then I can't see any reason why you
will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.
1. Be genuine.
Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be
genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they
perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish
intentions, you might as well say goodbye to
self-empowerment.
2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.
To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to
their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just
hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make
eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if
every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when
they find out that there is a confidante in you.
3. Laugh out loud.
I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for
every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find
it funny at all. This means finding humor in things and
not being overly serious. A person oozing with an
awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually,
attracts success.
4. Don't forget yourself.
In the process of fluttering around like a social
butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing
everyone to push you aside. Remember, love and value
yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself
respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock
to you and not trample on you.
5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your
savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matter
the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone
a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly
cross the street. When we were kindergarten students,
kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now
is the time to revive the good deeds and this time,
let them stay for good.
6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but
thanks to technology, you can do something about it.
Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and
look for the great people whom you want to communicate
with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of
support peers will surely make you feel good all over.
7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and/or generally morose? Whoa,
you can't go through life with those. Get rid of the
bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your
growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?
8. Be confident.
Be able to stroll to the other corner of the room and
introduce yourself to people with that winning smile
of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.
9. Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a
tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to
take control of situation and transform your anger
into something more productive and passive. As soon as
people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions
easily, they will find it hard to be around you.
10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and
significant others is too precious that you must not
neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with
them. Do things together. Happiness will never leave
your side as long as the people who matter the
most are close to you.
In the end, using people for self-empowerment means
becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a
win-win situation: the people know they can turn to
you anytime and vice versa.
Joseph Primm has been involved in research and marketing online since 1997 and is the Owner/Webmaster at http://jrprim.com, a home based Internet Business. Mr. Primm resides in Fort Mill, South Carolina, a quiet country town just a stone's throw from the
hustle and bustle of big city life in Charlotte, North Carolina.
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